Horses can be quite complex! To provide appropriate care, one must understand their practical requirements, including feeding, dental, and hoof care, alongside understanding their varied behaviors and personality traits. Mastering horsemanship demands both the ability to pick and properly use the right gear and the ability to learn from trustworthy experts who offer quality training and biomechanically correct riding lessons. While fulfilling these basic care necessities is crucial, building a deeper, more meaningful relationship with horses demands far more than technical knowledge alone.
That's why trainers and equine enthusiasts often recommend learning to "think like a horse." When I hear this advice, I wonder if it's something humans can actually do. After all, it's a tall order to understand the thoughts of another person, let alone those of a different species.
 
The Human Bias Problem
It's human nature to see things in a human way, and we often assume that others, like horses, think and feel the same way we do. This built-in human bias—our tendency to project human thoughts and emotions onto animals—hinders our comprehension of how horses actually experience the world, and it's a major obstacle to truly understanding them.
Consider this common example: horses are highly sensitive to the emotions and energy of those around them. They instinctively read our body language, tone of voice, and overall demeanor. They continuously assess our actions and have a natural understanding of our feelings, which dictates their responses. Many claim that horses detect fear in people who approach them hesitantly. We observe this in their reactions—restlessness, lifted heads, quick breaths, pacing, and other indications of alertness. Yet, claiming they detect "fear" specifically feels like a stretch to me. Are they picking up on feelings like insecurity or doubt? Are they reacting to our physical tension or uncertain movements? Or are they responding based on previous experiences with humans altogether? We interpret their behavior through our human lens, but we can't truly know what they're thinking.
This same bias leads to more serious misunderstandings. We might misread a horse's instinctive flight response as stubbornness or defiance. We might interpret their need for clarity as resistance. Our human-centered thinking clouds our ability to see the horse's perspective.
So if we can't actually think like a horse—and I believe we cannot—what's the alternative?
 
Emotional Intelligence: A Human Path to Understanding
Rather than attempting the impossible task of thinking like a horse, I propose we approach connection from a different angle: by embracing our human perspective and developing emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize, comprehend, and manage not only your own emotions but also to understand how those emotions affect others during interactions.
When working with horses, this means being aware of how your feelings—anxiety, frustration, excitement, or impatience—can influence the horse's behavior. To build emotional intelligence, you must take steps to minimize the impact of emotional triggers to create a safe and supportive space. When you treat horses with empathy and respect, they will likely respond with openness and trust.
 
A Personal Example
My work with equine energy healing provides a concrete example of how my emotional state directly affects horses. When I approach a horse for the first time to perform energy work, I often sense apprehension. It's easy to assume this arises from the unfamiliarity of our connection—after all, I'm a stranger to them.
However, it's crucial for me to first reflect on my own emotional state to determine if I might be triggering their response. Given that I frequently work with many animals, I tend to take a direct approach, moving efficiently and assuming they inherently understand what I'm doing. When met with tension instead of relaxation, my tendency is to assume the horse doesn't grasp my intentions. But then I must remind myself: it's my responsibility to foster a genuine connection by offering rather than imposing my agenda.
Every time I catch myself in this pattern of thought, I chuckle and express my apologies to the horse for the limitations of being human, acknowledging my human-centered thinking. In these moments, I may understand what the horse is feeling, but I never claim to think like a horse. I can only manage myself and create the conditions for trust.
 
Leadership: Partnership, Not Dominance
One common piece of advice for working with horses is to "lead with confidence" so they don’t detect fear. This is sound guidance, but people often misinterpret it as a call for dominance. Deeply held cultural beliefs in horse training have long prioritized control and dominance, and these traditions intensify the difficulties in achieving the mutual respect and partnership vital for clear communication.
True leadership with horses is not about asserting control but about embodying a calm and assured presence that fosters trust. When you approach a horse with confidence rooted in genuine understanding and compassion, you exude a relaxed energy and provide a safe space for the horse to feel more at ease.
Here's the distinction: Dominance says, "I will make you do this." Confidence says, "I know where we're going, and I'll keep us both safe getting there." A dominant approach might force a fearful horse into a trailer. A confident approach acknowledges the fear, creates safety, and allows the horse to make the choice to enter. The difference isn't just philosophical—horses respond to these approaches in fundamentally different ways.
This understanding calls for a shift in mindset among riders and trainers—from viewing leadership as a hierarchical relationship to seeing it as a partnership based on mutual respect. Emotional intelligence becomes a vital tool, allowing us not only to manage our own feelings but also to foster a responsive and nurturing relationship with horses. In this light, leadership is less about being superior and more about being a steady, reassuring presence that helps a horse feel secure enough to trust, learn, and thrive.
 
Practical Steps Forward
So how do we develop this emotional intelligence and bridge the gap between human and horse perspectives?

• Invest in education. Learn all you can about equine behavior, psychology, and body language. Reading books, attending clinics, or observing horses in various settings can provide invaluable insights into their natural instincts and social dynamics. But remember to filter all information through a critical lens: Is taking this advice in my horse's best interest?
• Develop patience and keen observational skills. Horses communicate through subtle body language and non-verbal cues. Rushing to interpret these signals hinders genuine connection. Watch horses interact with each other. Notice what relaxation looks like versus alertness versus fear. Learn to distinguish between a horse who is calm and one who has simply shut down.
• Practice mindfulness in your interactions. By being aware of your emotions and focusing on the present moment, you can create a more harmonious bond that respects both your feelings and those of the horse. Before approaching your horse, take a breath. Notice what you're carrying—worry about work, frustration from traffic, excitement about a coming ride. Acknowledge these feelings, then consciously set them aside.
• Build trust through consistency. Building trust between horse and human requires time, consistency, and reassurance—especially where past experiences have led to mistrust. These intertwined psychological hurdles form an intricate situation that calls for a careful and kind approach when seeking to understand horses.

 
Conclusion
No, we cannot literally think like a horse. Their experience of the world—their sensory perception, their instincts, their ways of processing information—is fundamentally different from ours. Claiming otherwise is both arrogant and counterproductive.
But we can do something equally valuable: we can become expert observers of their behavior, students of their body language, and masters of our own emotional states. We can strive for intuitive understanding that comes not from anthropomorphizing but from patient attention and genuine respect. Our goal should always be to cultivate relationships built on mutual trust, where both horse and human can flourish together.
As we work with horses, let us regularly ask ourselves:

• Am I truly in it for the horses?
• Am I managing my own emotions?
• Am I respecting their nature rather than forcing them into human frameworks?
• Am I creating safety and partnership rather than demanding compliance?

 
As always, I encourage you to enjoy the ride, ensuring your horse does too, because each interaction offers a chance to foster a deeper connection with these amazing animals—not by becoming them, but by becoming better, more emotionally intelligent humans.
 
Related Reading:

• Previous post: "Recognizing Resistance as Communication"
• Next month: "An Exploration of Empathy and the Dangers of Anthropomorphism"

​You can never rely on a horse educated by fear; there is always something he fears more than you. But, when he trusts you, he will do what you ask even when he is afraid.
Antoine de Pluvinel (16th century)
 
The Matching Steps Approach: A Different Way Forward
We saw in Part One that traditional join-up methods might not be producing the cooperative relationships we aim to achieve. So, now what? Is it possible to foster genuine connection by honoring the horse's nervous system and giving them authentic choices? Enter the Matching Steps method—a way of building relationships that feels as good to create as it does to experience.
In my book, In It for the Horses, A Journey from Whips to Whispers, I relay how my Arabian mare, Jalila, taught me to leave agendas at the gate and approach, not with demands, but with the simple goal of listening and tuning into a horse’s current state of mind.
 
An effective way to do this is to get curious about learning to read their inner state and mirror it instead of creating pressure to force a choice. This is the essence of the Matching Steps approach—a method that prioritizes synchronization over control and allows genuine connection to emerge organically through what scientists call co-regulation. For me, no experience in traditional horse handling compares to the feeling of emotional mirroring. It resembles the state of flow called “being in the zone,” but it’s totally heart-centered and only happens when horse and human are in a state of mutual trust and respect.
 
Signs Your Horse is Mirroring You Emotionally:

• Synchronization: Matching your movement rhythm
• Shared relaxation: Becoming more relaxed in each other’s presence
• Seeking comfort: Your horse comes to you when stressed or uncertain

Starting with Co-Regulation
Simply put, co-regulation meets, or “joins,” the horse where they are rather than asking them to adjust their emotional state while dealing with our agendas. If they're alert and tense, we acknowledge that alertness in our own body without demanding they relax. An apt teaching from classical dressage is the principle: You can’t force relaxation. On the other hand, if the horses is calm and sleepy, we soften our energy to match theirs. By doing this, we become partners in finding balance rather than “leaders” demanding a specific response.
Interestingly, this method calms both nervous systems, which is especially helpful for inexperienced or insecure handlers whose uncertainty creates a cycle of tension that fosters those emotions in the horse. The phenomenon of negative mirroring is widely recognized within the horse world, though not always identified by that term. When a horse is free to express its true feelings without pressure to conform, a sense of connection and shared calm arises.

The Art of Following First
Traditional join up asks us to direct the horse's movement until they choose to follow us. Matching Steps flips this approach—we begin by following them. We mirror their walking pace and match their head height. We show them, by mirroring their emotional state in our bodies, that we're paying attention to and honoring who they are right now. Mind you, this can be challenging. On days my mare is excited to go out for a walk, she prances and often breaks into a trot. No way can I keep up with her. That’s why I use a light, twenty-five foot longline rather than a lead rope. I can honor her exuberance, allowing her to “rush ahead,” by letting the line I keep walking while gently guiding her on a circle until she settles and returns to my side so we can proceed to the road. If I were to snap the line against her nose or raise my voice, I would shift her exuberant energy to anxiety and completely miss the point.
That said, this isn't about being passive or allowing displays of bad manners. Instead, it's about building trust through understanding. If a horse feels understood, they will settle and become curious about the human who understands them. In this way, leadership emerges from a foundation of mutual respect rather than from a place of control.

Tuning Into Two Nervous Systems
Perhaps most importantly, matching steps requires us to develop an awareness of both the state of horse's nervous system and our own. Are we both calm and socially engaged so learning and connection are possible? Or is one of us (or both) operating from a place of tension, defensiveness, or lack of participation?

Let’s Match Steps!

Starting Your Session
Before you even approach your horse, take a moment to assess your own state. Are you rushing from other activities? Carrying tension from your day? Your horse will mirror whatever energy you bring, so begin by settling yourself first. Take several deep breaths and consciously soften your body language.

Physical Mirroring in Practice
Begin by observing the horse's natural walking pace and rhythm, then match it—not asking them to adjust to you but adjusting yourself to them. Mirror their head height and body posture as well; if they're carrying their head low and relaxed, soften your own posture accordingly. When they change direction, follow rather than pulling on the lead, using your body language to acknowledge their choices.
A word of caution about synchronization: matching the horse's rhythm is essential but avoid becoming so focused on perfect step-by-step coordination—like ensuring your right leg moves with theirs—that you lose sight of the bigger picture. I've found that obsessing over precise leg synchronization can work against the goal, causing me to hop awkwardly mid-stride or break rhythm to force that perfect match. Instead, focus on the overall flow and unity of movement. The horse feels your intention to connect far more than they notice whether your feet are perfectly coordinated. Let the synchronization happen naturally rather than mechanically forcing it.
My fascination with art and history adds another layer of observation. Of course, my love of horses draws me to paintings of horses and this detail from a painting by Géo Bernier, (Belgian) called “The Horse Fair” c. 1900, naturally caught my eye just last week at a museum. Notice the synchronization of the steps in the men and the horses they lead.

Spatial Awareness: Honoring Boundaries
Determine the distance your horse finds comfortable and honor that boundary, even if it feels farther away than you'd prefer. Allow them complete freedom to approach when they feel drawn to connection and to retreat when they need space. Pay careful attention to their comfort zones and show your trustworthiness by respecting these boundaries.
The best example I can share comes from walking out on roads and through fields with my mare. I've learned to read her shifting levels of confidence throughout our outings, and it's fascinating to observe how she communicates her emotional state through positioning. When things feel "just fine" to her, she walks alongside me with her cheek by my shoulder—a companionable, relaxed position. If she's feeling insecure or reluctant about the walk she'll lag, seeking the comfort of having me lead.
Conversely, when she's feeling confident and eager to explore her surroundings, she positions me at her shoulder or even back by her girth area, confidently leading the way. Interestingly, her confidence doesn't correlate with speed—she might move slowly while still taking the lead position. If I accidentally creep forward out of my assigned position, she'll flatten her ears and swing her head around to tell me to get back where I belong.
When she first did this, my initial reaction was, "Oh no! You don't threaten me." But remembering my days ponying polo ponies, I recognized this action as clear communication, not a threat. Having established the spatial relationship that feels right to her in that moment, she views my repositioning as an insult—in this instance, my job is to listen and respect her preference.
True partnership with horses doesn't require round pens, pressure, or manufactured choices. Connection blooms when we learn to listen, mirror, and honor what our horses are telling us, as shown in the images accompanying this post's slideshow. Matching Steps fosters relationships based on authentic understanding; it's about joining your horse in a shared dance, not dictating the steps.
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I hope you have fun with this process. I know your horse will, and before you go, download your free Field Guide: Recognizing Genuine Connection vs. Compliance PDF to use while watching training videos or working with your own horse. Use it to hone your observations skills and be sure to share any insights this post, the PDF, or your own experiences bring in the comments.

The Traditional Framework
The theory behind join up draws from observations of natural herd behavior. Wild horses are social animals with complex hierarchies. Herd leaders—typically alpha mares—employ body language and spatial positioning to direct other horses' movements. According to natural horsemanship theory, horses that challenge leadership or display problematic behaviors may face temporary exclusion from the herd's protection, creating motivation for behavioral change.
Their method of achieving join up relies on a basic principle of horse behavior: horses naturally move away from pressure and find relief when it's released. Join up takes this concept further by using psychological rather than physical pressure, and they begin by controlling the horse's movement through body language and positioning, noting that horses will respond by fleeing, fighting, or finally choosing to submit and join up.

A Critical Gap in Understanding
But here's where things get complicated. Modern animal behavior science identifies stress responses as fight, flight, or freeze—with "fawn" (appeasement behaviors) sometimes added as a fourth option. The freeze response is what happens when an animal feels they can't escape and can't fight—they shut down. This raises a troubling question: how can we tell the difference between a horse that's genuinely choosing to connect and one that's simply frozen in a stress response?

The freeze response manifests as:

• Behavioral shutdown: The horse becomes very still, almost statue-like
• Hypervigilance: Alert but immobile, often with tense muscles
• Learned helplessness: The horse stops trying to escape or resist
• Dissociation: Mentally "checking out" while remaining physically present

Reconsidering "Willing Submission"
When you compare these freeze behaviors to what we celebrate in traditional join up, the overlap is unsettling. Given these characteristics, we must question whether traditional interpretations of "willing submission" or "choosing to join" are accurate. Consider these possibilities:

• A horse stopping in a round pen might be experiencing a freeze response rather than "deciding to negotiate."
• The coveted "licking and chewing" behavior might show stress processing rather than relaxation.
• Approach and following behaviors could signal appeasement instead of genuine connection.
• Compliance might reflect learned helplessness rather than an authentic partnership.

These distinctions matter profoundly. Horses in freeze mode may appear "well-trained" but lack the genuine engagement that characterizes true partnership. Without this awareness, we risk building relationships on compliance rather than genuine connection—achieving the appearance of join up while missing its essence entirely.
Genuine "joining" occurs when horses exist in a calm, curious state—the same emotional condition necessary for any authentic learning. This reframing opens doors to exploring methods that prioritize the horse's emotional well-being and genuine choice rather than interpreting compliance as connection.

The Critical Difference: Submission vs. Connection
Contemporary equine behaviorists and trauma-informed trainers increasingly recognize that apparent "submission" often masks a freeze response. Authentic connection emerges when horses have choices, not when someone systematically eliminates their options until compliance becomes their only viable strategy.
Think about it this way: true partnership requires both parties to have the freedom to say no. When we remove that freedom—even gently—we're not creating connection; we're manufacturing compliance.

The Path Forward
How do we move forward with this understanding? It's important to note that the effectiveness of any training method depends on the trainer's skill and sensitivity in recognizing the subtle differences between communication and stress-inducing pressure. Many accomplished natural horsemanship practitioners develop this discernment through years of experience and observation. However, this level of nuanced awareness can be challenging to teach and learn, which may explain why results vary so widely among practitioners.
Understanding traditional frameworks provides valuable context for exploring evolved approaches to join up. While the fundamental goal of creating willing partnership remains worthy, ongoing discussions about the most effective and ethical methods continue to advance our understanding.
The beauty of horsemanship lies in its continuous evolution as we deepen our knowledge of equine psychology, learning theory, and interspecies communication. The traditional join up method represents one important chapter in this ongoing story of human-horse partnership—but it need not be the final word.
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Next month’s post will share an abundance of information about training your eye to spot signs of connection and when it is not happening. And, even more exciting, we will delve into an alternative process of Matching Steps to psychologically connect with our horses, unlocking a new level of understanding and partnership.
 
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TRANSCRIPT
​(Make sure to watch to the very end to see an example of how powerful your work is, even if the horse appears to be paying little attention while you do it.)
Welcome to Part Four of my-no-pull-back-event-is-insignificant series.
Last time, I was unable to discuss the Ace-bandage head wrap, because Jalila spooked while I was putting it on and became upset. Fortunately, I hadn’t tied the wrap, and it easily came loose and fell off.
I want to emphasize that I didn't make a fuss over reintroducing the wrap. Since the incident three weeks ago, I've fed her twice with the bandage looped over my shoulder and laid it across her back once.
People are generally advised to repeat actions to succeed quickly, a strategy rooted in the ego's need to control and conquer. If I'd tried to force Jalila to wear the wrap the next day, she would only have become more suspicious and fearful of it.
Some benefits of the head wrap are:

• Horses receive unique sensory input from its gentle pressure.
• It can help calm a nervous horse.
• It improves focus and proprioception awareness during training.

MAKING AN ENERGY SANDWICH
Now, let's learn a simple but powerful energy technique called the "energy sandwich.” Using this technique, healing energy penetrates more deeply into body tissues. It can also harmonize the energy on both sides of the treated area, thus promoting a balanced energy field in the body.
An energy sandwich allows you to target healing energy. You may apply one around a joint, on either side of a chakra, or any area of pain or discomfort. To address the ripple effects of a pull-back incident, our focus will be on the poll. Ultimately, we will place our hands on either side of the atlas, which is the first cervical vertebra, often called C-1. However, since this area may be sore, making the horse reactive, we'll start at the base of the neck and work our way toward the poll.
To perform an energy sandwich, place one hand on each side of the area being treated, essentially "sandwiching" the body part or energy center between your hands. While doing this, it's important to:

• Quiet your mind.
• Abandon any preconceived notions or desired outcomes.
• Tune in to sensory feedback like heat, tingling, or pulsing between your hands.
• Focus on generating a healing energy stream from one hand to the other.

Don’t be in a rush. You may find you want to stay longer on certain areas of the neck than others. Follow your intuition and the feedback your horse provides.
If the horse accepts your invitation to relax, you may find that repeating this sequence while swaying side to side by shifting your weight from one foot, then the other, much as we did in the wither rock, adds an element of lateral rocking that enhances the benefits of this exercise.
The energy sandwich is a valuable tool for you to have in your toolbox. It’s a simple, effective, and direct approach. This technique's versatility makes it accessible to beginners yet remains a powerful tool in the hands of experienced healers, allowing practitioners at all levels to engage in focused, intentional energy healing.
Be prepared to follow your horse’s movement should they raise or lower their head while you are working with them. This can be a little awkward, so simply do your best.
I like to turn the horse loose when I’m finished and remove myself from the process. Sometimes they like to roll or walk around. And again, don’t be in a rush. You are on Equine Standard Time.
Wait for it… I’ll take that. 

​In my upcoming book, In It for the Horses: A Journey from Whips to Whispers (July 2025), I advocate for a revolutionary shift in our approach to horsemanship. Challenging the long-held belief that horse training is a series of battles where humans, as supposedly superior beings, must dominate to achieve mastery. Instead, I propose a more compassionate, spiritually aware approach that transforms not just our relationship with horses, but potentially our connection to the natural world as a whole. In this video, you will see this philosophy in action and learn the importance of clearing yourself of any preplanned agenda and working solely on Equine Standard Time.

VIDEO TRANSCRIPT
So, my plan was to put an ace bandage head wrap on Jalila so you could watch how she responds. I’ve done it once before and she immediately put her head to the ground and went through all this releasing process.
Part of the problem here in what happened is that I couldn’t quite remember how I was supposed to handle the bandage. And so, I got an agenda in my head about tying the bandage and she sensed that disconnect. You can see already that she’s putting her head up higher and her tail is swishing. She’s telling me that I need to calm my brain. And I’m thinking: do I wrap it here? How do I get this to fasten so I can come across the forehead? I just came across… If I hadn’t let go, things might have been okay, but then the wind blew it and everything went south.
I went out to make a video about four things you can learn to do to help your horse after a pull-back incident. Don’t worry, those four things are in here, but the experience offered too many opportunities to limit it to just them.
I want to show that horses who understand positive reinforcement training are not nippy or pushy or food obsessed. Here, I clicked Jalila for looking at me and consenting to have the headgear put on and I want you to see what happens when the video resumes: I offer the treat, and she tells me she’d rather not take it from my hand. She wants me to put it on the ground instead.
That done, I step back and invite her to approach. The rapid clicks tell her, “You’re on the right track. Keep going.”
I have the bandage over my shoulder and I’m getting the side-eye. She’s willing to stay by me but not very crazy about the whole bandage idea yet. I’m happy that she’s not really moving away and she’s remaining engaged, but I really blew it as far as being able to put that head wrap on her for today.
I still need to deal with the fact that she has been traumatized and that has created tension in her body. So, much like a pull-back incident, we’re going to continue and see if we can release things and get her happy.
This presents a really good opportunity to show the value of teaching a horse to target. Because you can change the subject in a conversation and do something with the target––immediately go to something they’re very comfortable with, they’re very successful, and they understand everything about it. With that, you can reintroduce the scary thing. The clicker makes a bridge between the scary thing and the familiar. You see I can take the target very close to that bandage, where just a few minutes ago, she wouldn’t even come near me with it on my shoulder. She’s already touching it. I can place the treat on the board. She’ll touch the target. She’ll switch and put her nose by the bandage. She’s a little concerned, but it’s definitely taken a lot of the charge out of it. 
Another thing that’s really important with a lot of horses, and this horse in particular, is movement for stress release. Confinement can amp her up to where her brain doesn’t work very well anymore. So, I’m going to ask her to travel around a little bit and then offer the target again. (Jalila approaches the target, which is placed by the bandage) Here, I can actually put it on the target and then pick it up with the target. She remains curious. All of this is good.
So, I spent probably a half hour getting to this point where we could be over the bandage thing. I’m not going to try and put it on her. That would be a bridge too far and a sure-fire step toward failure. It reminds me of my friend and favorite farrier, Doug Fraiser, who always said: It don’t pay to hurry a horse. When you’re working with a horse, you’re on Equine Standard Time. And that is one of the best lessons you could learn from this video.
 
AND NOW, THINGS YOU CAN DO TO ADDRESS THE TRAUMA OF PULLING BACK
Cross-fiber massage of the RECTUS CAPITUS LATERALIS muscle
There’s a muscle that runs from behind the ear, along the crest by the poll, that is often tight, and a cross-fiber massage is generally well received. For any reason, by most horses.
 Wither and Tail Rock
To do a wither rock, I simply cup my hands over the withers and shift my weight back and forth from my heels to the balls of my feet. Now you notice that she stepped away. That’s not because she doesn’t like the wither rock. We do enough bodywork together that she’s telling me she wants her sacrum released. So, I switch to a tail rock. My hand is cupped over the top of the dock of her tail. You can see that her whole body moves in response to the slightest shift in my weight.
Connected Groundwork Cheek Delineation
 Peggy’s Cumming’s Cheek Delineation exercise releases tension in the throatlatch and the TMJ joint. It’s beneficial after a pull-back incident, also after dental work, and can be part of a daily routine after riding or groundwork to help relax the horse’s throatlatch.
You can start at the center of the forehead. Then come along the side of the TMJ with your hand slightly cupped. Run your fingers along the groove behind the horse’s ear, along the cheekbone (the mandible) and when you get to about the center point, just pause, and hold to release the muscle.  
Connected Groundwork Caterpillar
The Connected Groundwork exercise called Caterpillar not only releases a horse’s neck and poll, but it also promotes telescoping, an action necessary for a horse to lift through the shoulders in motion.
Begin at the base of the neck. Cup your hand gently (like a clamshell) then gently open and close your hand as you slide along the jugular groove toward the poll. This is not a massaging action, so don’t squeeze.
You’ll notice that I add a reward for the release, so Jalila knows she has done what I expect. I have not yet put this response on command, but I do click her for doing it when working around the round pen.
I also plan to bring the two together to improve her posture and self-carriage in movement.
Jalila Around the Round Pen
We’re in the early stages of this but you can see that by clicking I can encourage her to seek this certain posture and it does encourage telescoping. As I work to improve the duration of that posture, we will be able to work on different things like lengthened stride and how much she pushes from her hindquarters, but this is just the beginning of the application.
Crest Massage
Another exercise you can do for tension in the neck is to begin at the withers and gently squeeze the crest with an upward lifting action. Move up the entire neck in two-inch increments.
 
 
TTouch Zig Zag or Zebra
The Tellington Method, developed by Lind-Tellington Jones, is a unique system for handling animals. This exercise is called the Zig Zag or Zebra. Use it to connect your horse front to back and increase circulation.
Using a soft hand, begin at the shoulder or behind the ear and trace the the stripes of a zebra along the whole animal.
Peggy Cummings advocates using this TTouch under the saddle pad after a ride to increase airflow and promote cooling. Be sure to do both sides.
 
SUPPORTIVE INFORMATION
Introduction
I hope the two preceding posts have convinced you that shrugging your shoulders and doing nothing isn't an option. No pull-back event should be written off as insignificant. In the previous posts, I discussed the damage a pull-back incident can do to your horse and potential long-term effects. I also recommended seeking veterinary and/or bodyworker evaluation and taking steps to lessen the trauma. But what if professional care isn't accessible or affordable or you've determined the incident was minor?
So, let's look at some things you can do…
But first, let me briefly introduce you to these two modalities.
Connected Groundwork® is part of Connected Riding® and Connected Enterprises founded by Peggy Cummings. This training method aims to diminish bracing patterns in both horse and human. This dynamic approach allows horses to shift weight easily, move by releasing tension rather than creating it, and lengthen their muscles instead of compressing them. In these ways, Connected Groundwork® promotes/allows freedom of motion, elasticity, mental focus, and offers the horse an opportunity to participate in a meaningful way by offering choices in response to requests. Just as in humans, achieving a balance of mind, body, and spirit creates a connection, synchronizing two bodies in motion. This process not only empowers the rider but ultimately empowers the horse as well.
For more information:
Cummings, Peggy. Book Title: Connect with Your Horse from the Ground Up. Trafalgar Square, 2011. Website: https://www.connectedriding.com/
 
Tellington TTouch® Training Method, founded by Linda Tellington-Jones, is a unique and complete system of understanding, handling, and influencing our animals and ourselves. This forward-thinking approach sees behavior as a means of communication rather than attitude or personality. The Tellington Method combines observations and philosophy, bodywork, ground exercises, and equipment to help animals find physical, mental, and emotional balance as a way of enhancing communication, cooperation, and harmony. The Tellington Method does not use the escalation of pressure to create behavior, nor does it rely solely on positive reinforcement. TTouch® aims to clearly communicate our intentions to animals while breaking down the learning process into small, manageable steps, ensuring a low-stress and logical approach.
For more information:
Tellington-Jones, Linda. Book The Ultimate Horse Behavior and Training Book: Enlightened and Revolutionary Solutions for the 21st Century. Trafalgar Square, 2006. Website: https://ttouch.com/
 
Conclusion
Taking action after a pull-back incident, even if it seems minor, is crucial for your horse's well-being. These ground exercises offer a practical, accessible way to address potential issues and prevent long-term complications.
By incorporating these Connected Groundwork® and Tellington TTouch® exercises into your routine, you're not just addressing physical concerns. You're also enhancing your horse's mental and emotional balance, improving your communication, and strengthening your bond.
Remember, your horse's response to these exercises can provide valuable insights into their physical and emotional state. This awareness allows you to address issues proactively, leading to more comfortable and productive riding experiences for both of you.
I encourage you to explore more about Connected Groundwork® and The Tellington Method. These approaches offer a wealth of techniques that can benefit your horse in numerous ways, far beyond addressing pull-back incidents.
 
 
In the video, I do what has become “my version” of a few of the exercises. The following instructions are the way Connected Groundwork and The Tellington Method present instructions for three of the exercises:
Cheek Delineation Exercise:  
Purpose:
This exercise releases tension in the throatlatch and the temporomandibular joint (TMJ). It's beneficial after pull-back incidents, dental procedures, and can be part of a daily routine before and after riding or groundwork.
Instructions:
Position: Stand on the left side of your horse, facing their cheek.
Hand Placement:

• Left hand: Gently hold the side of the halter.
• Right hand: Place your index, middle, and ring fingers in the groove just below the horse's ear, behind the cheekbone (mandible).

Technique:

• Cup your right hand slightly so your fingertips "hook" onto the edge of the mandible.
• Slowly trace the groove that follows the outline of the cheekbone.
• Use moderate pressure but be flexible. Lighten your touch over areas that feel congested, thick, or hard.
• Be gentle around the middle of the groove, where salivary and lymph glands are located.

Mindset: 
Remember, you're not forcing a release. You're inviting the horse to notice and release tension on their own.
Repetition: 
Trace the groove 2-3 times, allowing the horse to process between each repetition.
Repeat on the right side.
Observe: 
Watch for signs of release such as:

• Lowering of the head
• Lateral movement of the poll
• Licking or chewing
• Rolling of the eyes or blinking

Follow-up:
Without tugging or applying pressure to the lead rope, offer the horse an opportunity to walk. Observe their reactions.
Remember:
Always be gentle and attentive to your horse's responses throughout the exercise.
 
Caterpillar Exercise:  
Purpose:
This exercise promotes telescoping of the horse's neck, releasing the poll and opening the throatlatch, effectively allowing the base of the neck to lift.
Note:
Before beginning, observe the location of the cervical vertebrae in your horse's neck. They do not run along the top, under the mane.
Instructions:

• Position: Stand on the left side of your horse, facing their neck.
• Hand Placement:
  • Left hand: Take a light contact with the halter to maintain connection. Don't grip or use it to position the horse's head.
  • Right hand: Prepare to cup your hand around the neck, with your thumb in the jugular groove and fingers along the top ridge of the cervical vertebrae.

Technique:

• Start at the base of the neck, near the shoulder.
• Hold your hand in a "clamshell" shape, with the outer edge in contact with the horse.
• Slowly open and close your hand as you slide it toward the horse's ear in 2-4" increments.
• Do not squeeze. Remember, less is more.

Mindset:
The goal is to promote relaxation and release tension, not to achieve a predetermined reaction.
Repetition:
Repeat this motion several times, allowing the horse time to process between repetitions.
Observe:
Watch for signs of release such as:

• Softening of the eye
• Deep breaths
• Snorting or shaking of the head
• Lengthening or "telescoping" of the neck

Follow-up:
Be ready to let go of the halter should the horse choose to drop their head toward the ground.
Remember:
If the horse tenses, reduce the intensity of your touch. Always be gentle and attentive to your horse's responses throughout the exercise.
 
TTtouch Zebra (aka Zig-Zag) 
Becoming mindful of HOW we touch an animal is as important as the specific technique itself.  As is observing our 4-legged friend’s subtle feedback during and after contact.
A wonderfully simple way to make positive, mindful contact with nearly any species is the “Zebra” TTouch.
Also known as the “Zig Zag”, this technique is very simple to learn and teach others.
I find that it is a TTouch that I often use when first making contact with an animal.  I can easily adjust speed, pressure and how much of my fingertips, finger pads, palm or even the back of the hand I use.
It is fabulous to connect front and back end and increase circulation.
It is in the “Slide” Family of TTouches.
As you slide your fingers, imagine a zig zag pattern across the coat.
1. Place a soft/flat hand on the animal behind the ear (or shoulder or wherever your animal is accepting of contact)
2. As you retract your hand towards your body, slightly curl your fingers inward.
3. As you extend your hand/arm away, flatten and opens your fingers softly.
4. Continue along the whole animal to the hind end and even down the legs, if acceptable.
5. Pause and breathe as you change direction with each “Zag”.
6. Melt off
The “Zebra” is a great TTouch for horses as well as dogs and cats.
I especially like to do short “Zebra”s under the saddle pad after a ride.  I remove the saddle, leave the pad, and “Zebra” under the pad on both sides.  This allows for air flow to gently decrease the temperature on the warm back.  Much like putting on a layer before going outside, after working out at the gym, a few moments of “Zebra” significantly cools the back.
This tip came from Peggy Cummings.

​This post delves into the concept of the "chain of compensation"—a series of physical adaptations triggered by a single event, resulting in issues far removed from the original incident. In my next post, I’ll discuss things you can do to address the potential effects of a pulling back incident to provide the best follow up care for your horse.
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In this post, you'll learn:

• The potential long-term consequences of a horse pulling back
• How pulling back as a weanling might affect a horse’s future.
• How the body copes with trauma
• How the body’s strategies for coping with trauma play out
• Signs to watch for that may indicate ongoing issues
• How to lessen the severity of a pulling back incident

A holistic understanding of these concepts allows for better care and meeting the needs of our horses. Join me as I seek to improve the health and happiness of our horses.

Initially, I took these pictures to show the long-term effects of cribbing on a horse's mouth. However, I believe the damage to Slick's poll and jaws during his pull-back struggles contributed to misalignment and/or nerve damage that led to his dedicated cribbing behavior.
This observation raises important questions about common tying practices. Many horses are trained to tie using methods that can jerk the atlanto-occipital joint - the crucial connection between the base of the skull and the first cervical vertebra (atlas). These methods include dragging ropes or hard tying to inner tubes or posts.
Considering this, I can't help but wonder: How many cribbers are exhibiting efforts to adjust or soothe this joint? And how many of these behaviors stem from past pull-back incidents?

Hypothetical Case Study: A Colt's Journey
Imagine a weanling learning to be tied. He panics, pulls back against the halter. When he reaches the end of the rope, the colt's fight-or-flight response triggers and he struggles. He throws his head side to side while his hind legs slide forward beneath him. You rush to release the lead line, but he leaps forward before you can. You both stand motionless for a moment. You heave a sigh of relief, because the immediate crisis seems averted.
But the consequences of this incident may be far-reaching.
A struggle like that can result in soft tissue and nerve damage. While immediate injuries might not be apparent, such a trauma could lead to misalignment in the poll and neck or spinal issues affecting nerve function. The colt may experience shoulder and chest muscle strain. The halter may have exerted pressure on facial or other cranial nerves in the poll or compromised airway function.
Years later, when the colt begins training under saddle, he struggles with flexing his poll to turn his head and has difficulty bending his neck to the right. Unaware of the old injuries, the trainer may interpret these difficulties as resistance rather than recognizing them as compensatory patterns that are developing over time: the colt’s right shoulder has stiffened causing a shortened stride. Asymmetrical muscle development in his wither area makes saddle fit an issue. Struggling to support a rider's weight, his back muscles atrophy and additional compensations occur in his hips and lower back.
By age four, multiple unwelcome patterns have solidified. The horse’s attitude has changed from willing to "balky" and he appears to lack "try." These perceived limitations of attitude and athletic ability may hinder his assessment as a performance horse.
At twelve, our horse is at a vet's office with an array of puzzling symptoms. Even though the horse isn't lame, his third trainer is baffled by his trouble performing basic riding exercises and his uneven gait. Years of compensation now hide the root cause—that long-ago incident of pulling back—making diagnosis and treatment challenging.
This hypothetical journey illustrates how a single incident can trigger a chain of compensations, profoundly impacting a horse's long-term health and performance. It underscores the importance of recognizing and addressing even seemingly minor traumas, especially in young horses.
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The Body's Capacity for Coping: A Double-Edged Sword
Having seen how a single incident can lead to long-term issues, let's explore the biological mechanisms that drive this process.
The law of homeostasis is central to the chain of compensation. This biological principle describes the body's remarkable ability to maintain optimal stability and function in the face of disruptions such as pain, instability, or weakness. Essentially, it's a remarkable way of adapting to challenges and finding new equilibriums. Despite being a biological marvel, homeostasis can produce negative outcomes, notably in movement and physical function, because the body's compensatory strategies can set off a cascade of changes that ripple through the entire musculoskeletal system.
For instance:

• Altered Weight Distribution: A horse in pain will alter its weight distribution, favoring the healthy legs. An uneven gait develops, placing an excessive strain on the healthy limbs, which may cause additional problems.
• Muscle Imbalances: To stabilize an injured joint, certain muscles may become overactive, leading to tightness and pain. This causes other muscle groups to compensate, leading to imbalances and further injuries or reduced performance.
• Postural Adjustments: Back pain and other issues may arise from postural changes because of compensatory movements affecting spinal alignment.
• Range of Motion Changes: As the body adapts to pain or instability, the range of motion in various joints is affected. This affects the horse's overall movement patterns and athletic ability.

While these compensatory mechanisms are remarkable in their ability to keep the body functioning, they can also mask underlying issues, making early detection of problems challenging.
Early on, we may not even detect changes that belie the body’s efforts to stay functional. But an injury has happened, creating what CranioSacral therapy calls an archaic wound––one that is embedded in the body memory. Over time, compensatory patterns of movement create a need for others and the imbalance builds. By the time a lameness, a change in the animal’s ability to perform, or resistance occurs, the progression of the chain of events that led to the problem may be indecipherable.

Key Takeaways:
Homeostasis, while beneficial, can lead to long-term issues through compensatory mechanisms.
Compensations can affect multiple body systems, from weight distribution to muscle balance and joint function.
Early detection of compensatory patterns is crucial for preventing long-term issues.


To fully understand how these compensatory mechanisms work, let's delve deeper into the concept of the chain of compensation.
To further complicate matters, horses are masters of compensation. As prey animals, they go to great lengths to hide abnormalities of gait or physical weakness because their primitive genetic memory tells them that weakness leads to being singled out by predators, which means certain death. For these reasons, we must learn to err on the side of caution when assessing a horse’s behavior and acknowledge even the slightest hunch that something might be amiss.


Recognizing Subtle Signs of Compensation in Horses:

• Slight unevenness in gait or stride length
• Reluctance to bend or flex in one direction
• Changes in behavior or attitude during specific activities
• Subtle shifts in muscle development or posture
• Altered performance in previously mastered tasks

Conclusion
Understanding the chain of compensation triggered by incidents like pulling back can revolutionize horse care and training practices. By recognizing the interconnectedness of events affecting the equine body, we can develop more holistic approaches to training and rehabilitation. This perspective allows us to give horses the benefit of the doubt, recognizing behavior as potential communication of past trauma or ongoing compensatory issues.
Staying attuned to subtle cues enables early intervention in the compensatory process, averting more serious issues. This approach not only enhances the horse's physical well-being but also strengthens the bond between horse and handler, fostering trust and mutual understanding.
Remember, what might seem like a minor incident of pulling back could have far-reaching consequences. Understanding and respecting the potential effects of our actions allows for improved care and a stronger bond with our equine partners.
In my next two posts, we'll explore practical steps you can take when veterinary care or equine bodywork services are unavailable, further empowering you to provide the best care for your equine companions. We'll focus on ground exercises and hands-on techniques that you can do to help address issues stemming from pulling back incidents.

Introduction
Whenever I think of horses pulling back when tied, I'm reminded of Slick, a Quarter Horse gelding owned by my friend Kate. As a young horse, Slick was prone to pulling back. Convinced by a visiting trainer that he could end this habit once and for all, Kate sent Slick for a month of training. Tragically, Slick returned, more fearful than ever. For the rest of his long life—he lived to be thirty-six––the first thing Slick did whenever we looped a rope over a rail was to lift his head, testing if we'd tied it. The slightest tension would cause him to explode backwards in panic.
Before I knew Slick's history, I witnessed a horrifying incident at the barn. Someone had tied Slick to a stall front. I watched in shock as he pulled the entire twelve-foot panel, door and all, out of the wall and dragged it down the aisle into the gravel lot before stopping and allowing someone to free him.
Back then, I mistakenly believed that horses inherently pulled back, and that letting them break free would only encourage this undesirable behavior, a common misconception among horse owners. How wrong I was. My understanding has grown significantly since then, and I'd like to share some insights I've gained over the years.
This experience with Slick planted one of the seeds that would transform my approach to horse training and handling. Over time, it led me to question my assumptions and seek deeper understanding. Gradually, I came to realize that fear-based responses like pulling back are not just "bad habits" to be broken, but often deep-seated traumas that require patience, understanding, and a holistic approach to address. This insight didn't come overnight; it was the result of years of observation, study, and hands-on experience with horses like Slick.
Understanding the dynamics of pulling back is crucial for every horse owner and handler. It's not just about preventing property damage or injuries; it's about building trust, ensuring our horses' mental and physical well-being, and creating a foundation for a harmonious partnership. Through this series of blog posts, you'll gain insights into the physical and psychological impacts of pulling back, learn how to recognize subtle signs of distress, and discover gentle, effective methods to help your horse feel safe and confident when tied.
In this four-part series, we'll explore:
Pulling Back: The Ripple Effect––Harm
Pulling Back: The Ripple Effect––Compensation
Lessening the Ripple Effect: Ground Exercises You Can Do
Lessening the Ripple Effect: Hands-On Work You Can Do
Join me as we delve into the complexities of equine behavior and learn how to create safer, more positive experiences for our equine partners. Whether you're a seasoned horse person or new to the equestrian world, these insights will transform your understanding of horse handling and welfare.
Accidents in the equine world—a horse slipping on concrete, pulling back while tied, or struggling against training equipment—are frequently dismissed as unavoidable and insignificant. However, in the complex realm of equine health and well-being, even seemingly minor incidents, like a horse pulling back when tied, can have far-reaching consequences. My background in energy work and holistic equine management has heightened my awareness of subtle shifts in a body's energy field.
As guardians of our equine companions, it's crucial that we understand the long-term ramifications of our horsekeeping choices and training decisions.
 
The Anatomy of a Pull-Back Incident 
To understand the potential long-term consequences of a horse pulling back, we must first examine the immediate physical impact of such an incident. What might seem like a brief event of panic can trigger a surprising array of long-lasting traumas, many of which may not be immediately apparent.
Here’s a list of potential traumas that can occur from the “simple” act of pulling back.
1.Poll and Neck Damage:

• Strain or tearing of the nuchal ligament
• Muscle tears in the neck
• Potential trauma to the atlanto-occipital, AO, joint

2.Spinal Injuries:

• Misalignment of vertebrae, especially in the cervical (neck) region.
• Potential damage to the spinal cord or associated nerves
• Strain or sprain of ligaments supporting the spine

3.Shoulder and Chest Injuries:

• Strain or tearing of the pectoral muscles
• Potential damage to the brachial plexus, affecting nerve function in the front legs

4.Head and Face Trauma:

• Fractures of facial bones if the horse hits their head while pulling back
• Soft tissue damage around the poll and behind the ears
• Injuries to the TMJ (temporomandibular joint) from the force of pulling against a halter

5.Throat and Airway Issues:

• Damage to the hyoid apparatus, affecting swallowing
• Bruising or crushing of the trachea
• Potential impact on laryngeal function

6.Ligament and Tendon Injuries:

• Strains or tears in various ligaments and tendons throughout the body

7.Neurological Affects:

• Nerve damage affecting the facial nerve or other cranial nerves
• Potential damage to the vagus nerve, affecting various bodily functions
• Compression or irritation of nerves exiting the spine, potentially causing referred pain or altered sensation

8.Vascular Damage:

• Potential injury to blood vessels, especially in the neck region
• Risk of hematoma formation and bruising

9.Long-term Compensatory Issues:

• Altered movement patterns because of pain or restricted motion
• Development of compensatory muscle tension or weakness

Are there things in that list that you haven’t previously considered?
Before you panic, note the number and severity of these injuries depends on several factors, including the horse, the situation, and the equipment involved. These injuries won't all happen at once; some will only show up later as the horse adapts. Regardless, it’s imperative you never dismiss pulling back as insignificant and always thoroughly assess your horse for potential injury following any pulling back incident. Understanding these potential injuries helps us appreciate why a seemingly minor incident can lead to significant long-term issues, as we’ll see in the next post, Pulling Back: The Ripple Effect––Compensation.
 
Lessening the Severity of a Pulling Back Incident
Horses, being naturally claustrophobic, are prone to panic and flee when they feel trapped. Unyielding pressure, such as a solid tie, triggers a flight response, causing them to pull back harder. A slight "give" in the restraint generally causes a horse to stop pulling, especially one trained to recognize pressure release as a reward.
So, when training a young horse to tie, it's crucial to employ kind methods that encourage horses to think rather than react, offering choices followed by rewards for correct decisions. The potential damage from pull-back incidents necessitates abandoning the outdated practice of tying a horse and letting them struggle until submission or exhaustion––contrary to popular belief, such a struggle is not a learning experience. It endangers the horse's health and worsens their fear of being tied.
Once a horse understands the release of pressure as a reward, even a momentary give in the steady pull of the rope can interrupt their panic response. This brief respite allows a thinking horse to realize they're not truly trapped, and step forward, reducing physical strain on the poll and neck. This biomechanical relief can help the horse settle.
By far the least expensive and readily available solution is to simply tie to a loop of hay string fastened to the bracket on a trailer or secured around a fence post or hitching rail. Should your horse pull back, the hay string will break before anything else––halter straps or hardware––saving your horse from a potentially harmful struggle.
Whenever possible, I prefer to use a blocker tie ring––a metal ring with a tongue that flips up through a loop in the lead rope and holds the rope securely without fixing it in place.  The instructions that come with this implement describe several ways of procuring the rope, which allow varying lengths of rope to be made available to the horse. I always use the simplest attachment, which allows the rope to slip all the way through should a pull-back incident occur. Personally, I’d rather have a loose horse than an injured one. Most horses stop pulling before they get loose, and I never leave a horse unattended when tied.
Even when using a blocker tie ring, I like to use a breakaway halter, especially with a horse who tends to pull back. These halters usually have a leather crownpiece that will break under extreme stress. Bungie ties can be useful to avoid a panic situation, but some horses will develop a habit of “bouncing” against them.
If you do hard-tie a horse, always use a quick-release knot which has a “tail” that can be pulled to slip the know and release it. In my experience, with the force of a horse on the rope, even these knots can get pulled so tight a tool of some kind must be used to loosen or cut them after the horse has broken free.
While these practices and equipment can significantly reduce the risk of injury from pull-back incidents, it's important to remember that they are not substitutes for proper training and handling. The goal should always be to teach the horse to stand calmly when tied, using these safety measures as precautions rather than solutions.
 
Conclusion
Understanding the potential harm caused by pulling back incidents and implementing preventive measures are crucial steps in responsible horse care. However, these are just the beginning of a larger journey towards creating a safe and trusting relationship with our equine partners.
As we've seen, each interaction with our horses provides a learning opportunity for both horse and handler. By approaching horse care with patience, understanding, and a willingness to adapt, we can create safer, more positive experiences for these magnificent animals.
Remember, the goal isn't just to prevent accidents, but to build a foundation of trust and communication. This approach not only enhances your horse's physical safety but also contributes to their mental well-being and the overall quality of your partnership.
In our next post, we'll delve deeper into the long-term effects of pulling back incidents, exploring how horses compensate for injuries and how these compensations can impact their overall health and performance. We'll continue to build on this knowledge, providing you with practical tools to enhance your horse's well-being and strengthen your bond.
I encourage you to reflect on your own experiences with horses pulling back. Have you witnessed any of the potential injuries we've discussed? How have you addressed tying issues with your horses? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below - your insights could be invaluable to fellow horse enthusiasts.
Stay tuned for our next installment and remember: every step towards better understanding our horses is a step towards a more rewarding equestrian journey.
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In the world of horse training and equestrian sports, equine resistance is a common challenge that often frustrates riders and trainers alike. However, what if we viewed this resistance not as defiance, but as communication? By reframing our perspective, we open doors to deeper understanding and more effective training methods, while strengthening the bond between equine and human. In this post, we'll explore several real-life cases that show how interpreting resistance as communication can lead to better outcomes for both horse and rider.
Saddle Fit: When ‘Playful’ means ‘Painful’
Consider my first eventing horse, Purchase Power, who habitually kicked out when asked to canter. At dressage shows, judges frequently penalized our canter transitions, commenting on their "playful" nature. Initially, I interpreted this behavior as resistance and tried to control it by taking an ever tighter hold on the reins, believing that I needed to assert dominance over him.
After over a year of grappling with this issue brought no improvement––in fact, his behavior worsened––frustration grew for both of us. Delving deeper into the situation, I discovered my saddle was too narrow for his back, causing significant discomfort. Once I found a saddle that fit him, his "playful departures" ceased––physical discomfort had been driving his “resistance.”
This experience highlights a prevalent misconception: that we should 'ride through' challenging behaviors, a mindset leading to ignoring or misinterpreting important signals from our horses. Instead of forcing compliance, we should listen to them. By doing so, we open ourselves to understanding the root causes of their behaviors, which could be physical discomfort, fear, or confusion.
As ethical horse lovers, we must ask ourselves: Do we resort to coercion to overcome a horse's resistance, or do we address the underlying issues, empowering our horses with choices and enhancing their problem-solving skills? The latter approach not only improves our horses' well-being but also strengthens our partnership with them.
Spookiness: When 'Silly' means 'Scared'
Another illuminating example comes from my experience with Shiraz, an Arabian mare who was extremely spooky. By the time I met her, I had learned the importance of understanding the root causes of a horse's fear, rather than dismissing annoying behavior as 'silliness' or trying to force a horse through scary situations. After she nearly ran over me at the sight of a plastic bag in the weeds by the side of the road, I clicker trained her to "touch" plastic bags in various situations around the corral and in the arena before taking her out for another walk on the road.
Within three weeks, she no longer spooked at plastic bags, even when the fluttered and rattled in the wind, so I planted some along our route. Not only did she not spook at them, but she also refused to walk past them without stopping to “touch.” This made me laugh and gave us a new challenge that was entertaining, not aggravating. By addressing her fears directly, I respected Shiraz's communication and gained her trust, rather than discrediting her by forcing her to comply with my expectations.
Downhill Difficulty: When 'Stubborn' means 'Sore'
I recall Razzle who had difficulty going downhill. While he had no trouble walking from the arena to the barn uphill, he displayed resistance and threatening behavior like half rears and spinning around when heading to the arena. His perplexing behavior was easily dismissed as being 'barn sour' and 'ring sour,' but he was communicating a physical discomfort I hadn't yet identified.
It wasn’t until he moved to another barn and his willingness to leave the barn to go to the arena dramatically improved that I became utterly perplexed. I failed to recognize the arena and the barn at the new place were on level ground and it wasn’t until the behavior reappeared during a trail ride, I started putting two and two together.
Eventually, I consulted an equine chiropractor and learned he had a fixation of the floating rib at the base of his neck, which was severely affecting his biomechanics and overall movement, particularly when going downhill. The floating ribs, which are the last set of ribs not attached to the sternum, play a crucial role in the horse's chest and back flexibility and stability.
In Razzle’s case, this restriction created awkward or unnatural movements, making it difficult to maintain balance when descending slopes. With the treatment of this issue, everything about Razzle’s movement improved. This experience taught me to always consider physical issues when encountering resistance, even when the behavior seems purely psychological.
Reframing Our Perspective: From Problems to Opportunities
Every incident of resistance presents an opportunity to learn. Consult veterinarians, equine therapists, or bodyworkers to assess any physical issues contributing to resistance before putting the horse back under saddle. Be aware, however, that this approach may conflict with conventional trainers or instructors who prioritize achieving goals through dominance or strict adherence to schedules.
To embrace this opportunity for growth, we must consider a new mindset. View each challenge as a chance for deeper understanding. Become a detective on your horse's behalf, investigating the root causes of behaviors rather than pigeonholing them into popular labels or merely addressing the symptoms. This approach not only solves immediate issues but also prevents future problems and strengthens our connection with our equine companions.
Furthermore, this perspective encourages us to expand our knowledge beyond traditional horsemanship. I propose we broaden our horizons even further. Let's approach problems with an attitude centered on learning and development, not just for our horses, but for ourselves as well. This may lead us to explore fields such as equine biomechanics, psychology, and even nutrition, as we seek to better understand our horses. This continuous learning process enriches our equestrian journey and makes us more effective, empathetic riders and trainers.
When faced with resistance or behavioral challenges, riders can choose to perceive such moments not as threats or failures but as valuable opportunities to understand what our horses are trying to communicate. This attitude promotes curiosity about why a horse may behave a certain way. Riders can ask important questions like: "What is my horse expressing?" or "How can I better support my horse in this situation?" This exploration cultivates a deeper understanding of our horses' needs and concerns, fostering a more meaningful bond.
Recognizing that both riders and horses are on a continuous learning journey is vital. Mistakes are an inherent part of this process, and instead of fixating on achieving perfection, riders can prioritize the insights gained along the way.
When setbacks occur, an informed approach encourages persistence and adaptability. This mindset enhances the rider's observational skills—learning to read the horse's body language, emotional state, and signs of discomfort. As a result, a genuine relationship based on trust and empathy flourishes, moving away from dominance.
While this approach may require more time initially, it often leads to faster progress and more lasting results in the long run. By prioritizing the needs of your horse over personal ego or unrealistic timelines, riders can cultivate patience, both with themselves and their horses. Each small step forward in behavior or emotional improvement is worth celebrating. Acknowledging progress boosts the positive journey shared between horse and rider. Integrating this mindset can enhance not only training practices but also enrich the overall experience of working with horses. It recognizes the sentience of the horse by viewing resistance as communication, indicating potential emotional, physical, or mental distress.
As mentioned earlier, always assess advice based on your horse's best interests. Surround yourself with like-minded individuals who not only appreciate your approach but can also offer constructive support. With advocates on your side, you can navigate situations where it might be more appropriate for a more experienced rider to step in—preserving your horse's well-being while ensuring a thoughtful, last-resort decision.
Transforming our mindset in horsemanship revolutionizes how riders interact with their horses. It fosters mutual understanding, patience, and resilience. I encourage all equestrians to pause and listen when they encounter resistance. Instead of getting back on after a fall or riding through misbehavior under saddle, ask yourself: What might my horse be trying to tell me? When we view resistance as communication, we're better equipped to address our horses' needs, leading to a more harmonious and ethical relationship.

In equestrian culture, we frequently cling to outdated beliefs that prioritize human ego over the well-being of horses. One pervasive myth is that a rider must remount immediately after a fall. This advice, often delivered with unwarranted authority, disregards essential factors such as safety, the emotional states of both horse and rider, and the spiritual connection we aspire to nurture with our equine partners. At its core, this belief embodies an ego-driven mentality, where the fear of embarrassment and the desire to assert dominance overshadow the mutual respect and partnership crucial for a healthy, harmonious relationship with horses.
Horses Are Not Vindictive Beings
The myth perpetuates the notion that horses have a vindictive nature—that they plot and instigate resistance intentionally. This notion is fundamentally flawed; horses lack the cognitive ability to engage in such plotting. They exist in the moment, responding instinctively and emotionally to their surroundings. By recognizing this truth, we can create a supportive environment that relieves unnecessary pressure and fosters positive interactions.
The Fall: More Than Just a Physical Mishap
When a rider falls, the instinct may be to remount immediately, driven not only by the belief that not doing so signifies weakness or allows the horse an "unwarranted victory," but also by external pressures such as peer expectations, competition dynamics, or directives from instructors. This reaction disregards the psychological and physiological impacts of the incident on both the rider and the horse.
Understanding Shock: The Body’s Response to Trauma
Both horses and riders experience shock after a fall, complicating the decision to return to riding right away. Shock manifests both physically and emotionally:

• Physical Shock: Symptoms may include rapid heartbeat, shallow breathing, and increased blood pressure. Severe cases can lead to unconsciousness or confusion, particularly if injuries like concussions or fractures are present.
• Emotional Shock: Riders may experience disorientation, fear, or confusion that clouds their judgment about their own and their horse’s well-being. Similarly, horses can exhibit heightened anxiety, fearfulness, or an inability to focus, leading to further distress.

For the horse, a rider falling can trigger instinctual responses inherent to prey animals. The sudden loss of weight and associated commotion create confusion, potentially resulting in behaviors that endanger both the rider and observers, such as:

• Spooking: Startling at unfamiliar sights or sounds and bolting in fear.
• Shying: Nervously sidestepping or reacting to objects that seem threatening.
• Rearing: In extreme situations, a horse may rear up as a defensive action, which can be dangerous.

It is crucial to recognize these behaviors as instinctual responses to the situation rather than misbehavior. Rather than anthropomorphizing the horse and attributing psychological motives to their actions, we must view these behaviors through the lens of their fight-or-flight instinct. In moments of danger, a horse may choose to flee, freeze, or act defensively. It’s important to avoid disciplinary measures in these situations, as punishment can exacerbate fear and anxiety, damaging trust between horse and rider. Acknowledging these natural responses underscores the importance of maintaining calm and allowing both horse and rider the time they need to process the incident before moving forward.
The Importance of Not Getting Back On
Choosing not to immediately remount after a fall is an act of wisdom that prioritizes the horse's well-being over societal expectations or personal embarrassment. Here’s why this choice is vital:

• Prioritizing Safety: The instinct to jump back on can overshadow instinctual judgments regarding safety. Allowing time for both horse and rider to recuperate minimizes the risk of further incidents, emphasizing that personal pride should never take precedence over their mutual welfare.
• Nurturing Emotional Recovery: Time and space after a fall allow both horse and rider to process the experience. Riders can reflect on what happened and regain composure, while horses can calm and rebuild confidence. This recovery time is fundamental to fostering trust and ensuring a successful partnership moving forward.
• Setting a Positive Example: Not returning to the saddle immediately reinforces an important lesson—that mental and emotional health must be prioritized. This thoughtful approach to riding builds a sustainable foundation for future interactions.

In conclusion, the decision to remount immediately can lead to further trauma for both and reinforce negative associations with the experience.
Encouraging Emotional Recovery Over Conformity
Honoring our bond with horses requires an acknowledgment of their needs during distressing moments. Allowing both horse and rider time to recover from shock nurtures trust, dismantling the stigma surrounding responses to falls. This approach deepens the emotional and spiritual connections, paving the way for a better understanding of one another.
Practical, Evidence-Based Approaches
Instead of rushing back into the saddle, consider these strategies that prioritize the emotional and physical needs of both horse and rider:

• Post-Fall Evaluation: Conduct a thorough assessment of both parties. For the rider, monitor for injuries and cognitive clarity. For the horse, check the tack for places that might be improperly adjusted or rubbing, especially saddle pads and girths, and look for signs of distress or behavioral changes. Run your hands over them to see if they have hypertonic muscles or heat or swelling in any of their joints.
• Seek Professional Help: If uncertainties linger, consult with a qualified equine professional—such as a veterinarian, equine dentist, or bodyworker—who can offer insights into both parties' behaviors and provide tailored guidance.
• Engage in Groundwork: Both horse and rider can greatly benefit from engaging in groundwork as a constructive transition. This approach provides an opportunity to rebuild confidence and strengthen their bond without the immediate pressure of riding. It's important to emphasize that the groundwork should focus on calming and suppling exercises—practices that promote relaxation and understanding—rather than methods aimed at reprimanding the horse or correcting behavior in a punitive manner.

The Spiritual Perspective: Reverence and Humility
Beyond practical considerations, we must embrace the spiritual significance of our relationships with horses. When we honor these beings as equals and teachers, we shift our perceptions from viewing them as mere tools to understanding them as invaluable partners.

• Embracing Horses as Teachers: Each fall can impart lessons—whether about balance, emotional awareness, or confronting fears. Viewing the experience not as a setback but as a learning opportunity strengthens the bond between horse and rider.
• Approaching Solutions with Humility: Humility is foundational in fostering a respectful relationship with horses. By recognizing that we share our lives with beings possessing their own needs and experiences, we cultivate a deeper understanding. Patience and reverence offer a pathway to mutual growth after a fall.

Conclusion: A Transformative Approach to Riding
The belief that riders must get back on immediately after a fall is rooted in fear and misunderstanding. Addressing the emotional and physical needs of both horse and rider calls for a compassionate approach—one that prioritizes safety, respect, and spiritual growth.
By challenging these conventional notions, we honor the intelligence and spirit of horses while embracing the valuable lessons they provide. Let us advocate for practices that celebrate our partnership with these magnificent creatures, empowering both rider and horse to become true teachers and healers in each other’s lives.
As we move toward a more compassionate and ethical equestrian future, it is our responsibility—as riders and caregivers—to reshape our approach, nurture mutual respect, and advocate for the welfare of our equine companions. Together, as equals, we can create a space where horses and humans thrive.